Quincy & Tasha Todd
From the first moment Quincy & I laid eyes on each other, we knew that we were meant to spend the rest of our lives together. Initially we couldn’t seem to get it right, however we know God knows best and we live by his timing. We tried to force a relationship; we separated and eventually came back together. This time around we have grown and matured in so many ways. Quincy and I have made a vow before God and our loved ones to spend the rest of our lives together. Just like anything else, practice makes perfect.
We were referred to Marriage 101 (Starr & Bob) classes by a close friend. We were both very reluctant about taking the class, because we felt we knew exactly what we were doing this time and we didn’t need help. Something in our spirit moved us to try it out and see how it goes. Outside of choosing one another, taking this class is one of the many great decisions we have made.
Quincy and I have learned to romance one another all over again. We have discovered underlying issues that may have caused problems later on in our marriage, but learned to come together and work them out.
We celebrated our 1 year anniversary (7/14/13) and I strongly believe these classes made our first year smooth sailing. Everyday is not always smiles and fun times and we don’t always agree. Marriage 101 has taught us to work through those days in prayer and a loving way. Praying in our house has become a daily task without even thought. Our faith in God & knowledge has grown to another level. Marriage 101 with Starr & Bob has strengthened our marriage along with our friendship with one another. I would recommend this class to anyone who wants to be married/already married or thinking about divorce. Starr & Bob genuinely care and we feel we have formed a Christian relationship with them and look forward to taking other classes.
Testimony By An Anonymous Student January 2017
Mrs. Starr, thank you and Mr.Bob so, so much for your help. Sorry we could not finish the marriage counseling classes. We are having a very difficult time with our work schedules and finding a baby sitter. It was actually adding tension to our situaton.
BUT what happened was a God given miracle and we owe you guys a HUGE thank you. So, we were living separately and it was touch and go. We were not intimate or really together. Once we started the classes with you guys, we got a little bit of understanding, but the distance was still overwhelming and a distraction. So, we left you guys we got a little bit of understanding, but the distance was still overwhelming and a distraction. So, we left you guys and we went from 3% invested in our marriage to about 75%. Soon after, it dropped to roughly 50-40% and almost looked like a total disaster.
Somehow, we tried and she started "spending the night" at the house on weekends. We tried and tried but the "connections" was gone and the intimacy was vacant due to emotional blockage from the pain and the thoughts of infidelity, so to speak. It was more so me, not being able to accept that after 16-17 months of separation she had been intimate with any other person.
But the breakthrough came when I learned, from your teaching, that because I had also been with other people, how could i judge her? you taught me to understand how and why she was the way she was or though the way she did; the teaching you did on imprints. I also learned to understand myself. I truly believe you guys laid a foundation of understanding that helped me see things on an entirely different level.
We had a few nights of laughing, crying , talking and opening up on a level we had Never done in 5 years of marriage and 24 years of being together. The Great news is that now, her and the kids are living with me again and we are doing so,so,so SO MUCH better.
We are about to 88%-90% better and have open communication and understanding. Our lives are totally different, thanks to God and you two. We don't fight verbally like before, and it's easier to put myself in her shoes and vice-versa thanks to what you guys helped us with.
So sorry for the disappearance, but it was better and ended up helping us. We owe you guys so much appreciation. We are talking about renewing our vows and having a ceremony soon and I'd like to invite you guys. I really appreciate you and Mr.Bob very much. Thanks again and God Bless.