This Week’s Featured Radio Podcast
Listen to Volume # 075 — Kevin Leman – “Have a New Husband by Friday” (Podcast)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Kevin Leman
Broadcast Date: May 8, 2010
Kevin Leman, author of “Have a New Husband by Friday”, says “This isn’t rocket science, women, your husband isn’t as complex as you are, and doesn’t communicate as you do. Don’t be subtle because he’s just not that smart”.
A common complaint from women is “He doesn’t talk”. Most men shut-down and get quiet when they’re growing angry. Women will share things about their marriage with their sister, mother or girlfriend, since they are relationship savvy. Men think “honey what goes on between us in our marriage is between you and me, so take us off the church prayer chain.” Men don’t have friends, just fishing, hunting, and football-game buddies.
Kevin continues “Ladies, men want to please you and be your hero in your life. Men are like puppies that want to please you. Men are “fixers” and desire to fix things and problems in your life. The things you do mystify the men in your life. A man’s world is about work, and a woman’s world is about relationships. Men specialize with arms-length relationships. Women want to share things with their husband and be heard, telling you what you are both up-against. It can be difficult to blend and truly communicate in a marriage, and it takes deliberate effort.”
Many times, what draws us together initially becomes a burr in our side later-on in marriage. Differences are important and it is these very differences which make man and woman a couple. Think about it: What brought your mate or loved-one to your attention? Were they blending with the crowd, at-one with the background noise? It’s doubtful. To you, they probably were interesting because of their differences.
Ladies, when you say something nice about your husband, especially around other people, it’s his greatest reward. He preens with praise. We tend to look at our mate and assume that they like what we like, and that is not always the case. Our likes and dislikes are usually different. You need to get behind the eyes of your mate, to truly communicate.
Physical affection is a key component to bringing your man to you. Affection is important to a woman, and sex is an all day affair for them. The physical affection is important to a man, and intimacy should not be (or feel) reluctant. Men, a gentle touch and love-affirmation throughout the day will bring your loved one closer to you. Women don’t just “turn-on” like a light switch. Men, if you want to keep the fire burning, Plan spontaneity. Your sex life or intimate life can be as strong as you choose to make it.
Quote of the podcast:
“Marriage is not a competitive sport, and if one of you is winning you both fail.”