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Listen to Volume # 068 — “Pastor Craig Caster” (Podcast)

“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Pastor Craig Caster
Broadcast Date: March 20, 2010

Pastor Craig Caster shares with us what a good healthy marriage looks like, and is known for his Biblically based approach to relationships.

It takes work and focus.  What is worth having without a little effort?

Most couples don’t feel like they had a good example from their parents of what a good marriage is like.  You are not raising a little boy or girl in your household; you are raising a little husband or wife.  You must model the behavior that you want them to accept.

As Christians, one of the first things we are on this earth for is to be His ambassador.  Unfortunately, when many Christians are inside their home many of these teachings are forgotten.  A husband and wife should glorify Christ in the way that they treat one another.

Honor your spouse.  Honor your children.  What can you do for one another to make them more comfortable, and to serve them?  When you serve others, real joy and contentment will enter your heart.  We have the most peace in our life when we are giving because we are acting like Our Father, God.  What is so amazing is that when we give in this way, it comes back to us manifold.

Marriage can be full of trials.  To cope successfully is to be willing to take the time and effort to learn.  Look for a Christian mentor to work with you and assist you with accountability and encouragement.  They can help you with practical applications.

When men are not getting the affirmation from their wives they get defensive.  They are not giving her what she needs to provide for His needs then.  It is a self-feeding, perpetual-motion problem.

Submit…Yield.  Put your wife first, men.  Wives, submit to your husband.  If you are both in the middle of an argument, if you drop out of the argument you will hear them talking.  They will not be able to hear how they sound, and how ugly they are being until you are silent.  If you will learn how to be quiet and have self control, then you will start to see a change.  Say to them “Please forgive me for being so ugly, I need to work on myself.”

At this point, you need to pray.  Pray not that your spouse gets nicer and isn’t so mean.  Pray instead to be a better spouse, and ask Him, God, for forgiveness, and to be able to show your spouse HIS nature in you.

Man and woman most need love.  Man’s great need is affirmation.  Woman needs her man to love her above all others, take care of the children, and treat her as the mother of his children, and cherish and nurture them.  The lady needs to be listened to, not fixed.  Most men want to fix the ladies’ problems, when all she really needs is a sounding board.

We are told by God to raise our children in The Word, a lead role in establishing the rules and punishment, to motivate the children to accept the punishment and discipline.  When the father does this, and creates the loving environment the family flourishes.

Starr & Bob Calo-oy created Marriage101.net to offer help, encouragement and counseling to couples. Through weekly Radio Shows on KKYX 680am San Antonio, they host special guests who cover many unique topics concerning marriage. They also have weekly TV Segments on KENS TV 5 San Antonio where they share marriage tips. All of these programs are archived as Radio Podcasts and TV Podcasts for your easy listening. Visit their sister site, CaregiversAdvice.net for caregiving help for your special loved ones. Starr has written Four Books on Caregiving.