This Week’s Featured Radio Podcast
Listen to Volume # 090 — “Bob and Starr Calo-oy – Marriage Tips” (Podcast)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Bob and Starr Calo-oy
Broadcast Date: August 21, 2010
Starr and Bob Calo-oy share ten tips to renewing intimacy in marriage. Rediscover the fire of a love affair, marriage and careers, tips to dealing with your in-laws and more.
Get some good family films, sit down with your children and laugh together. Eat some popcorn, have a “munch-fest” while watching your favorite movies. A family that laughs together grows together. If you don’t have kids, just have a couple “movie night”. Just enjoy yourselves by being spontaneous.
Benefits of laughter: reduces stress, stimulates immune system, increases natural pain killers in the blood, and reduces swelling in body, releases tension and raises spirits, stress hormones such as Cortizol are lessened, releases endorphins.
Rediscover the fire of love again. Once time goes by in a relationship, it’s normal to get into an intimacy routine. Inject all kinds of romantic ideas into your relationship. Statistics show that now 53% of women are chasing their choice of man. Take 10 seconds just looking into her/his eyes in love. Touch tenderly when you pass one another-confirmation and affirmation that you are there and care. Kiss 15 seconds passionately each day. Use your words, actions and facial expressions to build one another up and not tear each other down. Serve one another with no expectation of receiving anything in return. Play with each other. Play anything fun. Include the kids if you can. Hang out with other couples that are as in love or more in love than you are…not arguing couples. Dance together and sing with each other. Read some marriage self help books together, or to each other. Men, lead the family in prayer. Pray with your loved one. Pay close and careful attention to her/him…listen.
Transparency is important in a marriage relationship…No Secrets. You need to be open and in agreement when it comes to your shared finances. There is no reason for secrecy. You can discuss trade-offs and adapt your budget to acquire what you each desire. Statistics show that 36 percent of men and 40 percent of women have lied to their spouse about what they paid for an item. Plan a budget together. Allow for flexibility.
Marriage and Career: One of the largest problems in a marriage is when career takes precedence over the home relationship. Agree on how much time is devoted to job and career, and still be able to have a life at home with family and spouse. This is a major stumbling block when it comes to communication and feelings of frustration. Make an agreement on who does what household chores and errands, vacation planning, who decided what money is spent where?
Starr & Bob Calo-oy created Marriage101.net to offer help, encouragement and counseling to couples. Through weekly Radio Shows on KKYX 680am San Antonio, they host special guests who cover many unique topics concerning marriage. They also have weekly TV Segments on KENS TV 5 San Antonio where they share marriage tips. All of these programs are archived as Radio Podcasts and TV Podcasts for your easy listening. Visit their sister site, CaregiversAdvice.net for caregiving help for your special loved ones. Starr has written Four Books on Caregiving.