“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Host: Starr Calo-oy
Topic: In-laws: Support or thorn in Your Marriage
Broadcast Date: August 8, 2010
Always show your in-laws respect, even if you don’t think they deserve it. (more…)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Host: Starr Calo-oy
Topic: Rebuild a Broken Trust
Broadcast Date: October 10, 2010
When you have a broken trust with your spouse but you want to reconcile, there are ways to reestablish your relationship. (more…)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Host: Starr Calo-oy
Topic: Excessive Texts May Be Hurting Your Marriage
Broadcast Date: September 12, 2010
Are Mysterious Texts Coming in? Excessive texts coming in throughout the day may be hurting your marriage. (more…)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Bob and Starr Calo-oy
Broadcast Date: August 21, 2010
Starr and Bob Calo-oy share ten tips to renewing intimacy in marriage. Rediscover the fire of a love affair, marriage and careers, tips to dealing with your in-laws and more. (more…)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Irv Loev
Broadcast Date: August 14, 2010
Irv Loev, author of “Conflict Means I Love You” is with us this morning, sharing relationship resources and advice from his new book. (more…)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Emma Viglucci
Broadcast Date: August 7, 2010
Emma Viglucci, licensed family and marriage therapist, speaks about affairs and cheating, what inspires and/or causes them.
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Ron Deal
Broadcast Date: July 17, 2010
Ron Deal, author of “The Remarriage Checkup” wrote this book because he feels that every couple should have a fighting chance to succeed. Remarried couples seem to have a more difficult time with this. The remarriage divorce rate is 60 percent. Remarriage with children have a divorce rate of 2/3 or 66.6 percent.
Ron wanted to help others beat these dismal odds. Unrealistic expectations are brought in as baggage. People make the assumption that THIS marriage is going to be good like the last one. The flip side is if they just got out of a divorce, they don’t want to go back to pain this time, and this expectation is “I’ve learned from the mistakes of the past and won’t repeat” but you are going to be living with a different person and things that were not a problem with your first marriage will be now, and just the inverse. Living with comparison creates unrealistic expectations and will cause disparity and conflict.
Remarried couples are twice as likely to discuss and plan how to discipline their children and stepchildren. Many couples getting remarried have not had this conversation, but a plan is necessary! Part of the expectation is “because we’re in love, this stuff will work itself out”. People who remarry after a divorce try to find somebody different than their ex-spouse. When they remarry after an excellent relationship, that may have ended in a spousal death for example, they may try to find a new partner much like their original spouse.
Having fun or “fun factor” is a significant influence in predicting a high-quality relationship not only between spouses, but in the whole family. Playing together is very bonding. It is important to plan for fun, and plan for conflict. Agree on rules to follow when an argument arises. For example, if one of you begins to raise your voice you agree to do this, or go into this room to discuss away from the family area.
In most churches, if you look around you will see that about one third of the couples there are in a “remarriage” relationship. Sometimes it is easy to get discouraged in life. In life, marriage is really one of God’s best recycling tools. Marriage forces us to grow and interrelate, and become more like Him. To become a father or mother is one of the greatest blessings in existence. To remarry and try to get it right is an amazing thing, as you are willing to give it another try, and that special something inside of us is unwilling to give up. Be open to your own heart, and learn from the past. Bring God into your new relationship and your blended families from the start and you will bring success into it as well.
God loves you and wants you to be happy and successful.
Starr & Bob Calo-oy created Marriage101.net to offer help, encouragement and counseling to couples. Through weekly Radio Shows on KKYX 680am San Antonio, they host special guests who cover many unique topics concerning marriage. They also have weekly TV Segments on KENS TV 5 San Antonio where they share marriage tips. All of these programs are archived as Radio Podcasts and TV Podcasts for your easy listening. Visit their sister site, CaregiversAdvice.net for caregiving help for your special loved ones. Starr has written Four Books on Caregiving.
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Stephanie Coontz
Broadcast Date: July 3, 2010
Stephanie Coontz, author of “How Love Conquered Marriage” offers advice for all couples. (more…)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Bill Harley
Broadcast Date: April 10, 2010
Bill Harley, author of “His Need, Her Needs” discovered through a series of studies over the years that not only was old school counseling not working, but that a new approach was necessary. He came up with the notion that nobody got a divorce when they were ‘in love’, so he set himself to getting to know “what is romantic love?” and how to promote it in marriages. (more…)
“Marriage 101” on KKYX Radio 680am San Antonio, Texas
Hosts: Starr & Bob Calo–oy
Guest: Pastor Craig Caster
Broadcast Date: March 20, 2010
Pastor Craig Caster shares with us what a good healthy marriage looks like, and is known for his Biblically based approach to relationships.
It takes work and focus. What is worth having without a little effort?
Most couples don’t feel like they had a good example from their parents of what a good marriage is like. You are not raising a little boy or girl in your household; you are raising a little husband or wife. You must model the behavior that you want them to accept.
As Christians, one of the first things we are on this earth for is to be His ambassador. Unfortunately, when many Christians are inside their home many of these teachings are forgotten. A husband and wife should glorify Christ in the way that they treat one another.
Honor your spouse. Honor your children. What can you do for one another to make them more comfortable, and to serve them? When you serve others, real joy and contentment will enter your heart. We have the most peace in our life when we are giving because we are acting like Our Father, God. What is so amazing is that when we give in this way, it comes back to us manifold.
Marriage can be full of trials. To cope successfully is to be willing to take the time and effort to learn. Look for a Christian mentor to work with you and assist you with accountability and encouragement. They can help you with practical applications.
When men are not getting the affirmation from their wives they get defensive. They are not giving her what she needs to provide for His needs then. It is a self-feeding, perpetual-motion problem.
Submit…Yield. Put your wife first, men. Wives, submit to your husband. If you are both in the middle of an argument, if you drop out of the argument you will hear them talking. They will not be able to hear how they sound, and how ugly they are being until you are silent. If you will learn how to be quiet and have self control, then you will start to see a change. Say to them “Please forgive me for being so ugly, I need to work on myself.”
At this point, you need to pray. Pray not that your spouse gets nicer and isn’t so mean. Pray instead to be a better spouse, and ask Him, God, for forgiveness, and to be able to show your spouse HIS nature in you.
Man and woman most need love. Man’s great need is affirmation. Woman needs her man to love her above all others, take care of the children, and treat her as the mother of his children, and cherish and nurture them. The lady needs to be listened to, not fixed. Most men want to fix the ladies’ problems, when all she really needs is a sounding board.
We are told by God to raise our children in The Word, a lead role in establishing the rules and punishment, to motivate the children to accept the punishment and discipline. When the father does this, and creates the loving environment the family flourishes.
Starr & Bob Calo-oy created Marriage101.net to offer help, encouragement and counseling to couples. Through weekly Radio Shows on KKYX 680am San Antonio, they host special guests who cover many unique topics concerning marriage. They also have weekly TV Segments on KENS TV 5 San Antonio where they share marriage tips. All of these programs are archived as Radio Podcasts and TV Podcasts for your easy listening. Visit their sister site, CaregiversAdvice.net for caregiving help for your special loved ones. Starr has written Four Books on Caregiving.